My youngest brother died on Monday May 25 after a battle with Crohn's disease and cancer. He surprised us all these last months with his perseverance and resilience and his doctors called him a miracle. But in the end life became too much of a struggle and his body became too weak and he requested euthanasia which is legal in The Netherlands in certain circumstances. The doctors approved and my brother choose the date and time he wanted to die. For all the people who couldn't be with him it was nice to know the time of his passing so we could all be with him if not physically then at least in spirit. I called my brother one last time on the Sunday before his death. They had just given him his morphine and he had enough energy to talk. We spoke for half an hour and that was very nice. He died on Monday afternoon very quietly and peacefully. The last couple of weeks have been difficult but I know it will get better with time. I haven't done any stitching or sewing since he died but I hope I can show you something in my next post.




22 comments:
I am so sorry for your loss and hope that you'll find each week a bit easier.
oh kieny, i'm so sorry. i know this last few weeks must have been so difficult for you. please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. sending you strength.
Vanuit Antwerpen/België stuur ik je een troostende knuffel!
Wat een mooie foto van jou en je broer.
Ik wens je heel veel sterkte toe in de komende tijd.
I'm so sorry, it is understandable to not be in regular routine, we'll still be here. My heart goes out to your brave brother.
How wonderful that you had that 1/2 hour phone conversation with your brother before his passing. He is now at peace, and you'll hold him in your heart and memories forever...
You will get back into your routine soon enough, when you are ready. It is ok to take time to grieve...
God bless...
Oh Kieny, nu pas lees ik over het verlies van je broer en ik zit met tranen in mijn ogen. Wat heb je het eerlijk en mooi beschreven en wat een prachtig gedicht hiervoor al. Laat er hoop zijn in je hart op een weerzien en op een verlossing van alle ziekte, moeite en verdriet op de plaats waar je broer nu mag zijn, ik hoop dat je het niet erg vindt dat ik dat schrijf, maar dat is waar mijn hoop en geloof op gevestigd is en gun hém dat zo en jou de troost daarvan. Lieve groet van Corrie en heel veel sterkte in je verlies Kieny.
mijn oprechte deelneming bij het overlijden van je broer!
Hi Kieny. I was thinking of you, so I'm checking in to say hello. :o)
I was missing you on Twitter so dropped by and read your sad news x x thinking of you and looking forward to finding you on twitter x x
Lynette
Lieve Kieny, wat moet dat moeilijk zijn voor jou, vooral dat je er eigenlijk niet bij kon zijn. Je wist wel het moment van sterven en je kon hem wel nog even spreken. Koester de goede herinneringen aan je broer. Rouwen is iets waar je doormoet, hoe moeilijk het ook is. Ik blijf in gedachten bij je!
Its hard to lose a brother, even when you know he is fighting a most difficult battle. I pray for your peace and comfort and I know you will be comforted by happy memories as the days go by. My brother's death in February still haunts me at times, I miss him very much and feel like a part of me left with him as family is a part of who we are. We can be thankful for the good times together and hold close to the comfort from knowing our brothers are at peace and no longer suffer.
Kieny I'm so sorry for you and your family.
I'm glad that your brother went with dignity though and he is no longer suffering. I'm sure that he will continue to watch over you.
Love and hugs Gina xxx
Veel sterkte toegewenst. Het moet erg moeilijk voor je zijn geweest dat je zo ver weg woont.
Héél veel sterkte joh!
Kieny, ik lees dit nu pas. Je verhaal raakt me diep. Ik wens jou en je familie heel veel sterkte om het verlies te verwerken.
Hugs to you.
Blessings to you and your family , Love the eagerness in the photo of you and your brother, nice to know he had the choice to his own path.
Olá! Conheci o seu cantinho e é muito lindo! Criativo também! Amei mesmo!!! Parabéns pelo seu trabalho!... Se puder, dê uma espiadinha no meu:
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Beijinhos do Brasil.
I'm so sorry for your loss
Kieny, dikke knuffels vanuit Roosendaal, wat een verdriet, ik lees het nu pas en schrok er van. Wat moet het onwezelijk zijn op zo'n afstand om je broer te rouwen. Heel veel sterkte.
I always thought my younger brother and I would grow old together as we were the two younger siblings from a family of six; however, he was taken from this earth in a horrific car accident and while I am still grieving, know I didn't lose my younger brother - I know exactly where he is - with my Lord and this give comfort to this Christian who lives in Texas. May our Lord give you comfort...
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